How do I feel like a woman again??

I had a hysterectomy last year I am only 22 years old I gained a lot of weight right after the surgery and I am working on losing all of that but I don't feel like a real women any more and I cant explain it to my husband why do I feel this way I needed the procedure I chose to go through with it for my family's and my sake I may have died if I hadn't had the surgery then I wouldn't have been here for my son growing up how do I change the way I feel and how can I learn to see my self as an attractive women again I am not fat really I am still a little chunky but like I said I am working on that. I hate feeling like this and I want it to stop please help.